Relationship Crisis
Relationship crisis can dredge up an array of questions and uncertainty. While these two words together, “relationship crisis” usually make people think about dating and romantic partnerships, all sorts of relationships—family, colleagues, friends, band mates, neighbors and so on—have the potential to need mending. When a connection between two people reaches the level of crisis, there are all sorts of reactions. Often people trap themselves by attempting to relieve fear, and act based on those reactions. Yet handling relationships in a way that tends to the deeper issues calls for a different approach. The most immediate need will likely involve each person considering what makes them feel disturbed.
Ambiguity about one’s unrest tends to complicate conflicts.
Sometimes that emotional ambiguity takes over to undesirable consequences. Perhaps one of the most relieving ideas to ponder is that much of the potency of emotional agitation weakens through a process of reflection that allows uncertainties to become insight. People develop insight in many ways. Meditation, creative processes, and tracking emotional eating are just a few examples. I find it rare for people have seldom undertaken their own ways of developing introspection, but quite common that their practices are not necessarily called to mind when most needed.
If you could envision a relationship crisis first aid kit, what would be in it?
If your not sure, know this is something you can compile through time as you discover more about yourself. What keeps you grounded? How do you accept your emotions without undertaking reactive actions that ultimately don’t lead to what you want or need? And maybe most importantly, from where are those reactions coming?
With the crisis at hand, maybe talking about it got deep. Suddenly you find yourself in the midst of something that really matters and you stumble across something. Maybe it was a spark of insight or profound confusions. Maybe something arose that made you question things further than you had before. Although many of the things we find can be painful or bewildering, if we approach them as found object artists do, we can use them to make meaning.
While there is no quick solution to suit a likely complex situation, you can take comfort in your seeking information. It says something about your intentions to address a discordance, heal and learn what will be exponentially valuable to how you relate to people. As you navigate your options to move through this, check out the “Anxiety, fear, self perception, emotional wounding” section in these resources.
